A little inspiration

I know I’ve been unusually quiet on here lately. I’m sure there is not a single person chomping at the bit waiting for the next update, but I still feel guilty for not writing anything. 

I’m mostly doing this for me, so that I can look back some day and see how far I’ve come. Revisit the “old me” and remember all that I have endured. I am a completely different person than I was four months ago (to the day). And I’m not done changing. I am still very early in the grief process, very early in the self-discovery realm. Some days I gain more ground then others, but I try to always at least be facing forward. 

Now, to be honest, I have been having a very difficult time lately. I’ve hidden it well (I think) from most people…including myself. I have reached a pretty significant part in the grief process. Anger. I’m not ready to discuss it, truthfully. I’m kind of holding it close right now, slowly trying to allow myself to feel it. Anger is not an emotion that I am familiar with. At least not with feeling it myself. And yes, I’m allowed to be angry. And yes, the things that I’m pissed about are legit. But that doesn’t make it any easier. I’m struggling to find a benefit to anger. A purpose for it. It feels like a waste of time and energy. But a wise person recently told me that it takes a lot more energy to try to suppress the anger. So, I guess I’m trying to learn how to embrace it. And maybe, some day, I’ll be willing to talk about it. That day is not today. 

Instead, I want to share something that I have listened to thousands of times when I am feeling down or lost or just need a bit of inspiration. This speech/song has been crucial to getting me through some rough days ever since I first heard it in high school. I hope that it might be able to do the same for you. 

What do you use for inspiration? I’m always looking to add to my arsenal!

Baz Luhrmann – Everbody’s Free (To Wear Sunscreen)

^link to a YouTube video of the song with lyrics 
Ladies and Gentleman, 

Wear sunscreen.

If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it.

The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience… 

I will dispense this advice now.

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth; oh nevermind; you will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded.

But trust me, in 20 years you’ll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked… 

You’re not as fat as you Imagine.

Don’t worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum.

The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind.

The kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday.

Do one thing everyday that scares you.

Sing.

Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts, don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours.

Floss.

Don’t waste your time on jealousy; 

Sometimes you’re ahead, 

Sometimes You’re behind.

The race is long, and in the end, it’s only with yourself.

Remember the compliments you receive, forget the insults; 

If you Succeed in doing this, tell me how.

Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements.

Stretch.

Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your

Life.

The most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives, some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don’t.

Get plenty of calcium.

Be kind to your knees, you’ll miss them when they’re gone.

Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t, maybe you’ll have children, maybe you won’t, maybe you’ll divorce at 40, maybe you’ll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary.

Whatever you do, don’t Congratulate yourself too much or berate yourself either.

Your choices are half chance, so are everybody else’s.

Enjoy your body, Use it every way you can… Don’t be afraid of it, or what other people Think of it, 

It’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own… 

Dance… even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room.

Read the directions, even if you don’t follow them.

Do NOT read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.

Brother and sister together we’ll make it through

Someday your spirit will take you and guide you there

I know you’ve been hurting, but I’ve been waiting to be there

For you.

And I’ll be there, just tell me now, whenever I can.

Everybody’s free.

Get to know your parents, you never know when they’ll be gone for good.

Be nice to your siblings; 

They are the best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.

Understand that friends come and go, but for the precious few you should hold on.

Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle because the older you get, the more you need the people you knew when you were young.

Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard; 

Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.

Travel.

Accept certain inalienable truths, prices will rise, politicians will Philander, you too will get old, and when you do you’ll fantasize that when you were young prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.

Respect your elders.

Don’t expect anyone else to support you.

Maybe you have a trust fund, Maybe you have a wealthy spouse; but you never know when either one might run out.

Don’t mess too much with your hair, or by the time you’re 40, it will look 85.

Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it’s worth.

But trust me on the sunscreen… 

(Brother and sister together we’ll make it through

Someday your spirit will take you and guide you there

I know you’ve been hurting, but I’ve been waiting to be there

For you. And I’ll be there, just tell me now, whenever I can.

Everybody’s free.)
I just love it. And I just learned that the speech was originally printed in the Chicago Tribune in 1997 by Mary Schmich and later turned into this song. I’m so glad that it was. 

Please share your inspirational books, quotes, songs, etc. with me. I need help getting through this stage of healing. 

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2 thoughts on “A little inspiration

  1. Hey Emily,
    I don’t know if you are religious or not but I found the book When Bad Things Happen to Good People a really good book when I was dealing with loss. It’s really a theory and mostly just the rabbis thoughts, but it helped me get a different understanding at the time of why bad things happen. honestly it won’t change your mind on anything, but it has a lot of good insights into what you’re feeling. The book is about a rabbi who lost his 14 year old son to a rare disease and he struggles with God not being omnipotent. It has a lot of insight into his anger with himself, his wife, his child, etc… and how he began to see the world differently. Anyway… it’s not a large book, and definitely worth the read.

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  2. “I am only one, but I am one. I cannot do everything but I can do something. What I can do, I should do and with the help of God, I will do.” -Everett Hale
    I’ve had this hanging on my bulletin board for many years. You’ve probably seen it. It’s my inspiration because it reminds me that, no matter how I may be feeling at the moment, my life DOES have a purpose and to be open to, and trust that, God will lead me to it. It may be weird but it’s both comforting and inspiring to me. 😊

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